Dear Flabby - Advice to the Lovelorn, Forlorn, Timeworn and Everybody Else

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The question posed today to Dear Flabby is:  "How do I tell her that we are going to break up?"

Uncle Flabby's answer:

"If your relationship has been having troubles and you just can’t seem to get over them, there comes a point when it seems like your only option is to break up and try to start over or just simply go your separate ways.

In these times, you want to show your partner that no matter what is happening, you still love them and you still want to make things work if you can.

• Be honest about your feelings – True love comes from being truthful about what you need and responding to their needs.

• Set aside time to talk with your partner about things that are
happening – Give your undivided attention to your partner in order to show them that you’re willing to work on things if you decide to not break up.

• Let them know how you feel about them – Be sure to let your partner know how you feel about them and why you want to stay with them.

• If you’re the one at fault for troubles – Make a plan as to the things you will do differently in order to restart and rejuvenate the
relationship.

• Write them a note about the things that you will miss if you do break up.  Sometimes you can’t save a relationship, but letting them know that you love them might be the thing that turns a doomed relationship into one that can start again."

 Uncle Flabby's final  thought is:

"I used to watch a lot of Charlie Chan movies.  Charlie was supposed to be Asian (Oriental was the term used back in the 1940s when the films were made) and I always thought it was odd that Charlie Chan was played by North Americans or Europeans who had a horrible fake 'Oriental' accent.

But I  liked it when Charlie would break into a 'Confucius Say' moment. 

Charlie (speaking to Number One son) would say something like "Little Chan will understand better when he is older.  Confucius say, 'Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.'

Of course he did not speak of this blog, but if he did,  Confucius (would probably) Say - 'Man who get advice for free should keep in mind that he will probably get exactly what he paid.'

This guest post is from the book, 101 "Amazing Ways to Say, I Love You".